Riding the cycle of death and rebirth

There’s a question I’ve been asking myself lately. Perhaps it has value for you, too. 

Is there a place in your life where you’re holding tightly to something, for fear that letting go would mean that you don’t have what you need?

I’ve been noticing this coming up for me lately. The part of me that’s afraid that if I let go of what I have, that’ll be it. I’ll lose something. Something better won’t come along. I’ll somehow be left without what I most need or want.

When that feeling is present for me, there’s a lot of fear, grasping and desire to control. It’s coming from a place of scarcity, which is not where I want to be living my life from.

This shows up in all kinds of ways. Sometimes it’s a relationship or friendship that’s naturally drifting apart, but I want to hold tightly to it. Sometimes it shows up in my business as a program I’ve created, and even though the energy is gone from it and I know I should retire it, there’s a sense that I’m still holding on, just in case.

This question was amplified for me recently when my friend and mentor, Darla LeDoux shared an audio teaching she’d created entitled What has to die so you can live now?

It’s a powerful question, and one I’d been asking myself for a while. This amplified it and took it to the next level. It invites us to consider that everything in life is seasonal. Everything is a process of death and rebirth. This cycle is happening all the time. 

As we move through fall and coming into winter, we see this displayed in nature right before our eyes as the leaves begin to let go and fall from the trees. Things become dormant and barren… and eventually, spring back to life.

And so it is with us: aspects of ourselves, seasons of our relationship, things in our business. So, my question to you (and to myself) today is:

What am I holding on to that’s taking up space where something else wants to come through?

One of the places I’m looking is in my physical space. When I open my drawers and they’re overflowing, where do I need to remove things and make room for what wants to come next? Am I holding on and making it impossible for life to give me what it wants to give me?

These are the questions and inquiries for you to be in. 

  • Do you see something that you’re holding onto? 

  • What is it? 

  • What do you sense is underneath that holding?

  • What might be possible if you let go and accept the natural season of death that wants to make room for more life to come in?

As always, I’d love to hear from you. See you next time!


Ashlie Woods