Micromoves Part 1
Ignite a life of Passion with Micro-Moves: Part 1
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Have you heard this term before? It’s one of my favorite topics to discuss at retreats.
We’ll start by looking at what a micro-move is and why it’s so potent. Then we’ll look at a result you want in your life and we’ll go through the process of choosing a life goal you want to achieve so we can break it down into micro-moves. Overall, taking a deeper look at the components necessary to get you in action..
First of all, what is a micro-move?
What we know about living a creative life, is that a clear intention matched with an elevated emotion is a recipe for creation. This comes directly from Dr. Joe Dispenza’s work.
A micro-move is a tiny step that is infused with clear intention and high energy.
I have created a simple tool that will help you get to the heart of this. It guides you to define the micro-move you’re committed to taking and to get clear on why you’re taking it, as well as how you’ll feel when it has been accomplished. In this way, you’ll be tied into your intention and you’ll know what energy is needed to get the best results. Download your Micro-moves journal prompt here.
Let’s begin our exploration of micro-moves by looking at what micro-moves you’re already making in your life and how they are working to help you achieve your goals. Micro-moves can be little habits or rituals, like making the bed each morning after waking up or drinking plenty of water.
Next week, we’ll look at something we want to accomplish and how we can attack it with micro-moves.
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Beliefs Part 4
Let's talk about BELIEF - Part 4!
How did that go? Did you play with your belief and come up with some new things that you could believe in this area?
To recap, I was working on the area of work, where I wanted ease but often felt anxiety. I was living inside a belief that anything worth having required sacrifice and hard work. This wasn’t a belief I wanted to hold on to. It was causing me to over complicate things. It was leading me to dismiss what came easily rather than embracing, celebrating and making the most of it.
I played around with this belief and various things I could say instead. Here’s what I settled on:
“Hard work is overrated.”
It has a quality of playfulness. I value hard work, determination, perseverance, commitment, grit and all that jazz; that’s already ingrained for me. This new thought, “Hard work is overrated” feels like a relief. It makes light of the issue, and it really works for me. It’s something I’ve started to say to myself over and over and to put into practice.
What’s the use of a new belief if it doesn’t then shape your actions and your results?
I began to catch myself overcomplicating things. I could see where a project was good and I had an impulse to tweak it to death, adding things that could enhance it but would also delay it. I started to ask myself, Is that necessary or can it be good enough as it is?
It allowed me to start dropping perfectionism and quit complicating the shit out of things. It let good enough be good enough.
It let done be better than perfect.
Are you, like me, someone who continues to work on things endlessly and never finish because you’re always messing with it? That’s overrated, too.
To take on the belief that hard work is overrated enabled me just to get shit done and have it be good enough. It made a tremendous difference in how I work and brought much more ease into my life and business.
How about you? What’s the new belief you’ve come up with and how are you going to embody it? What actions will you take to make it stick?
I invite you to make yourself a little touchstone, a physical reminder of a way of being that you want to adopt in your life. It can be anything from a sticky note on your bathroom mirror to a crystal in your pocket to an intention that you set every morning as you brush your teeth.
I’ll give you my example that you’re welcome to use if you like. I also suggest that you create one of your own that works for you. I’d create a touchstone - a note on my desk that says, “Let it be easy” or “Done is better than perfect” -- something that connects me to the new belief that I am embedding and embodying in my life.
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Thanks for joining me on this belief exploration. I’ll see you next time when we’ll be looking at a whole new topic. See you then!
Boundaries: Part 4
Practical Ways to Put Clear Boundaries in Place
All month, we’ve been exploring our relationship with boundaries. Last week, we looked at the many tolls we pay when our boundaries are murky. The intention today is to help you discover a few places where you can immediately put healthy boundaries into place in your life.
We’ve discussed the definition of what boundaries are; gained insight into why we don’t set them in some aspects of our lives; and understood the true costs involved when our boundaries are blurry or nonexistent.
Are you ready to make a change?
Get a piece of blank paper and draw a line down the middle. On the top left side, write THIS WORKS. Title the right column THIS DOESN’T WORK. I invite you to spend a few moments making these two lists.
What works for you? For example, respectful, engaging conversation; being on time and prepared for meetings; presenting clear offerings that feel resonant and true.
What doesn’t work? Ambiguity doesn’t work for me. It doesn’t work for people to disregard my time or for me to disregard anyone else’s time. And so on.
Reread the list of what doesn’t work for you and circle 2-3 items that jump out at you, perhaps with an emotional charge. This is where we will start. Ask yourself:
What action can I take to implement a new boundary?
How can I ensure that I don’t have to put up with situations/people/things that don’t work for me?
Personally, I’ve been looking at my boundary around people who I am and am not willing to work with as a coach. I’ve seen that it doesn’t work for me to continue to try and convince someone when I’ve recognized that they are not ready. It doesn’t work for me to try and force a good fit. Instead, I can accept that it’s okay for people not to be a fit and simply say: “I don’t think what I’m offering is a good match.”
What actions can you take to put stronger, healthier boundaries in place? What steps are you taking to support the kind of life you want to live?
Write in your journal:
I am making a commitment to __________________
I am available for ______________________
This is what works for me: ______.... Here is an action I’m taking to support this boundary: _______________________
Thanks for joining me on this adventure in boundary setting. Stay tuned! Next month, we’re moving into BELIEF.
I want to hear from you. What did you discover around boundaries this month? It’s powerful to share your thoughts and ideas with someone.
Feel free to comment below and share your thoughts on boundaries with me. I’d love to hear how this exploration has been for you.
Boundaries: Part 3
What is the Cost of Not Setting Clear Boundaries?
Ready to continue our exploration of boundaries? Last week, we looked at where our boundaries are in place and where they are lacking. What did you discover are the reasons you use to justify for not drawing clear lines?
We’ve started to gain insight into where our boundaries are not in place and why -- the underlying beliefs preventing us from maintaining healthy boundaries. We’ve already taken a huge step toward setting healthier, clearer boundaries and have gathered a lot of helpful information to work with.
Let’s take a deeper look at what happens when we do not set clear boundaries.
Remember the example I shared last week regarding speaking with a potential coaching client? What was it costing me to not have firm boundaries in place around who I am and am not willing to work with? A significant amount of time and energy. Effort and time that could be much better utilized working with compatible clients.
Not everyone is going to be a good fit, and that’s okay. Continuing to pursue conversations with people who just aren’t ready is a waste of both my time and theirs. Even when I could tell someone wasn’t ready, I would keep trying and inevitably end up feeling frustrated and drained. It was also a drain on my sense of self-expression, making me feel imprisoned.
Now, when I realize a potential client is not ready, I can say, “I don’t think this work is a good fit for you right now. Here are some resources that could make a difference for you…” and suggest a book, technique or teacher that might inspire them.
Ask yourself:
What is it costing you not to have clear boundaries in place in your relationships, work/business, health, etc.?
What’s the cost when something is not okay with you and you’re unwilling to speak out and make a change?
Energy, patience, clarity, self-expression, your power and freedom, to name a few.
What else could you add to this list?
Next week, we’ll learn how to reclaim our power, well being and freedom by setting effective boundaries.
Feel free to comment below and share your thoughts on boundaries with me. I’d be honored to hear how this exploration is going for you!
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Boundaries: Part 1
Defining Our Boundaries
Boundaries are an important theme in our personal lives and in society at large. Whether related to our own personal development or the ongoing creation of our business or career, setting clear boundaries is essential.
Let’s explore the concept of boundaries over the next few weeks. Today, we’ll define boundaries and in future videos, we’ll discuss:
What obstacles get in the way of our ability to set and hold boundaries?
What is the cost in our life of having boundaries in place, or not?
Why do we keep doing something if we know it is not working for us?
What are some practical action steps to start creating stronger, healthier boundaries?
First things first: what are boundaries?
Houston-based professor, researcher and author Brene Brown, who you may remember from her viral TED talk, The Power of Vulnerability, says we can simply define boundaries as “this is okay; this is not okay”.
Setting healthy boundaries means drawing a line and being crystal clear about what we are and are not willing to tolerate and engage in. We are responsible for setting the parameters around what works for us--and what does not.
To begin this exploration, become aware of two things:
What boundaries are clear for you? In what areas of your life have you already set strong, healthy boundaries? Relationships, family, work/business, health?
Where are your boundaries lacking or murky?
Setting the foundation with this awareness practice will enable you to learn how to set clear boundaries.
Feel free to share in the comments below. I’d love to hear your thoughts on boundaries.