When "making it work" doesn't work

Where does your ability to “make it work” get in the way of having what you truly desire?

Last week, I ordered a new rug for my living room, and I was super excited when it arrived. I hauled this heavy package up to my apartment and unrolled it… only to find out that it was way too big for my space.

Somehow my measurements were really off (that’s a whole other story). I thought it was pretty funny that I had this mess of a rug to contend with. 

Laughing at myself, I took a picture of it and shared it on Facebook. Everybody commented, “Oh, put it under the furniture” or “Did you try to put it the other way?”

It wasn’t just two comments. It was a whole bunch of commentary about how I could make it work. 

Look, I love resourcefulness. It’s one of the qualities I love about myself and find attractive in other people. When they don’t get stopped by their circumstances, get creative, and make it work. I love that! 

In this scenario, there was no making it work that was going to be satisfying for me.

If I had shoved the rug under the furniture, I could have made it fit. But it would have looked like I’d made it work. It wouldn’t have looked like the beautiful rug in the middle of my living room the way I wanted and envisioned. I would’ve been settling. 

How often are you making something work instead of having what you truly desire? And how do you know when it’s time to just “make it work” versus push forward and stand up for what you truly want?

When I went to sell the rug locally, I posted it in a few online marketplaces. And again, the commentary was all about how to make it work.

I opened my Instagram the next day and Cory Muscara’s snippet for that day was: “Not being willing to let go of a life we like is often the reason we don’t have a life we love.”

It felt like a little nod from the universe.

Just because you can make something work, doesn’t mean you should or you have to. What if you could trade in making it work to have what you really want?

The law of polarity says if the desire is present, the way to fulfill it is present, too. Maybe the question becomes: Are you willing to let go of what you like, or let go of “making it work”?

Are you willing to allow yourself what it is that you truly desire?

Let that inquiry percolate for you. I’d love to hear from you as to what came up. And If there’s a place where you recognize your settling and you’re ready to step in and move toward the things that you most desire, then reach out. That’s what I’m here for!